We all got dealt with a hand at birth, and that hand, to a large extent, determines how we look today. This is what I have, now how am I going to play this hand? How am I going to use it? The sexist, most attractive thing in the world, is when I meet someone who knows how to play their hand. If I meet someone who is a master at playing their own hand, and they know how to get the best out of what they have, that’s a real achievement; that’s real sexy; that’s really attractive.
There is a big difference between objective beauty and perceived beauty. Now objective beauty is what society finds beautiful at any one time in our lives, or over time. Now objective beauty is largely when scientists look at it, it has to do with symmetry—symmetry in your face, symmetry in your features—that’s gonna determine how objectively beautiful you are. But perceived beauty very often has nothing to do with that, because perceived beauty has to do with what we are as a package. when you’re in real life, you’re not in a magazine, you’re not on a still…that’s been air brushed, and someone looks at it and goes, wow, that’s beautiful. It’s animated, it’s moving. Sometimes you get attracted to someone based on the way they move, the way they gesture, the way they use their face, the way they laugh, the way they speak. Those are things that make people look beautiful. Now objective beauty matters for the catwalk; it matters for the magazines; it matters even for some parts of tv and media. And by the way, even there it’s subjective. You look at model agencies and the people they pick and what they do—and even that can vary. But objective beauty matters much more on that level. In real life, when it comes to our love lives, perceived beauty is what counts, not objective beauty. And let me tell you how perceived beauty is created. Received beauty comes from the overall package that we have—not just our face, not just our body—our personality, the way we talk, the way we walk, our energy, our whole demeanor, our outlook on life. That goes to create a package, and where this becomes extremely encouraging for anyone out there who’s ever had an insecurity about their looks, is that, no one or two features go to make up how beautiful you are. As a package, with your personality, your features, and the way you move, combined, that creates a unique package that can not be replicated by anyone else. That’s what makes you unique, and that’s what ultimately the guy becomes attracted to. He’s not after a feature, he’s after a package.
We all got dealt with a hand at birth, and that hand, to a large extent, determines how we look today. And obviously we can take care of our bodies better than other people. People have surgery to change things, but let’s for a moment take the simplistic route: that we are dealt the hand we are dealt when it comes to our looks, besides from the things we improve. We now have only one option. I don’t think the option is to sit there and get insecure about shit we can’t change, right? That, to me, is the dumbest thing anyone can do—and a complete waste of life. The only smart thing to do, is to say, this is the hand I was dealt, okay? Does it make me better or worse than anyone’s else? ‘cause, you know what, when it comes to my looks, I did nothing to earn that. This is what I have, now how am I going to play this hand? How am I going to use it? And, for me, I don’t know about you, but for me, the sexist, most attractive thing in the world, is when I meet someone who knows how to play their hand. If I meet someone who is a master at playing their own hand, and they know how to get the best out of what they have, that’s a real achievement; that’s real sexy; that’s really attractive.